Thursday, November 18, 2010

Where to begin?

I have tossed around making this blog a personal blog and wanted it to keep it as I started it but I am going to throw that to the side for just this day. I am hoping maybe I can help someone that has gone through what I have gone through for 16 1/2 years. Most of you come to my blog for scrapping/crafty ideas or my etsy finds and lets not forget my music lists. If this is too much personal info I am sorry but I need to get it out there. Most of my family have been told. The only people that I have not told are the people i work with. I figure they need not to know everything in my life. With all the strength of that day 16 1/2 years ago

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161/2 years ago I gave a baby girl up for adoption something that I have had to deal with and struggled with for every year. I called an agency that was out of Boston to see my options. They flew me to Boston where I then went to the agency. I was given several adopted parent books to look through. I finally decided on a couple that I thought was the perfect match. a hard one, this would be her family for the rest of her life. I met them the next day.

to make a long story short. The couple sent me pictures and letters until she was 6. I also sent pictures/packages and letters After that I never received letters or pictures. It was the agreement that the agency had with adopted couple one, that i did not like but dealt with. On October 21 I received a letter from "hayley". I never thought I would see this day so soon ( well not soon enough). I cried with sadness and cried with happiness. You would never believe the emotions that i was feeling. I had them all! her letter stated she had been looking for me on facebook for a while but without any luck. As soon as I heard this I had to sign up on fb but just for her. The crazy thing is before I started working I googled her name, her adopted parents and brothers name. I had no clue what their last name was, mind you. There it was infront of me. I could not believe it. I had info that I never had. I even found out where she went to school and where they lived. Mind you I did not want it to use it for knocking at their door but I just wanted to see a pic. while on fb I could not find her by typing in her name so, I went to her adopted mom's name. She was not on her frineds list but I found a friend of hers that did. BINGO!!! sent her a message telling her I received her letter. We have been texting ever since and sending picture messages. It is the best feeling knowing she forgives me and that she loves me as much as I love her. She was going to visit for Thanksgiving but with tickets costing so much, it does not look like she will be coming . I will be visiting her in June.

remember to smile gina--=)

15 comments:

  1. Wow, what a hard but brave decision you made. I'm glad that you and your daughter have been in contact. Hopefully talking with her has brought you peace and brought y'all closer. I wish you the best on your visit to see her. What a story with a happy ending! Many smiles :)

    xo
    Cat

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  2. Oh wow Gina that is great news! I know it was a hard decision for you to make but I think its one of the bravest decision someone can make to love someone so much that you are willing to let them go so they can have a better life!! Love you I am so happy for you :)

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  3. Aww, what a great story! So glad, she found you! So happy for you that you will be visiting and getting to know her better and better! The decisions we have to make aren't always easy, but we make them for a reason...and everything is kind of meant to be...thank you so much for sharing your beautiful story!!

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  4. oh my goodness! What an amazing story! It's so great that the two of you have been able to reconnect and that she reached out to you on her own. I bet June can't get here fast enough!

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  5. wow!! amazing, amazing story!!! so brave of you to share, but I'm so glad you did. adoption must be a difficult decision, but for whatever reason you chose to do so, you made the right decision. always know that. but how amazing that after all these years and with the technology the way it is now, you are able to know her and watch her grow up from this point on. there is still so much growing up that a 16 1/2 year old has to do {as you would know and I don't have to point out ;-) } but this is a great story. thank you for sharing and good luck. I'm interested in the next step. tale care doll!!!
    {xoxo}

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  6. I have been going through some hard times lately and by you sharing your story it reminded me that things will all work out in the end. So thank you Gina for sharing. I am glad that she contacted you and that you guys are going to meet up.

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  7. Wow, Gina! I am just in awe of your bravery and selflessness. That was an amazing thing you did. I am so happy for you and glad that you've found each other. That's just incredible!!!! What a beautiful story and I hope it continues to work out for you both. Love & Hugs!!! xoxo

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  8. Awww Gina!! I am so happy this story has a happy ending and I'll be praying for you guys!It's amazing how the internet can help you find people you love :) You will have to let me know how the visit in June goes! I am very very excited for you. Please keep me updated! I miss you so so so much!! Thanks for the text this morning :)
    Love you!!!
    Lindsay

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  9. What an incredible story! I'm so pleased that you are in contact and hope that you your relationship flourishes from strength to strength! I'm so glad you have found eachother :-)
    Hugs
    Donna xox

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  10. in response to your comment on my blog - I have every intention of getting the latest sotb challenge done this weekend... or maybe over Thanksgiving weekend. lol I know what I want to do, but... this one will probably be in to Bekah last minute. oh well! What about you?

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  11. I am just now reading this amazing story and I am so very happy for you. I will be sending you a letter in the mail very soon. I have lots to tell you my dear.

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  12. I just got goosebumps! I'm so happy for you two to have found each other, and I hope that you will be able to build a relationship!

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  13. wow Gina, that's great...my hubby just connected with his birth father (after 50 years) a few months ago...very emotional!!!! I am happy for you...his birth mother has passed so at least he has some connection. Seize the moments!
    Debbie :)

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  14. Hey Gina! Wow it has been forever since I have been on here! But I am so glad I was able to read this! Reminds us that there is always hope! I have been going through a horrible situation these past few years, this year being the worst so far. Thank you for sharing your story. I may have to share mine and free myself as well. Happy New Year! :)
    -Hollie

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  15. If I were closer I would give you a big huge happy hug!!!

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